Wednesday, May 6, 2026

Obese Mis-Aligned Self-Defined

 

            Douglas leaned back in his seat as his senior year of high school began to draw to a close, still uncertain about his path forward once he graduated. Some of his associates strongly suggested that he attend university and put his always active mind to work to find a good, strong, and valuable new vocation. While others suggested that he enroll in some branch of the military. He was torn, he was indecisive, and he struggled with making a decision for there were few people in his life that he considered wise or intelligent enough to follow their advice.

               The last day of school came to an end and three days later, the graduation ceremony took place amidst the cheers of hundreds of audience members. He crossed the stage, received his diploma, returned to his seat and watched his few friends follow the same process as he had just completed. The formal ceremony was over, and dozens of people entered his parent’s home to wish him well, continually badgering him to give an answer about his future plans.

               The outdoors grew dark, Douglas could feel himself declining into fatigue, exhaustion, and a desire to escape from too much social interaction. Eleven o’clock rolled around as he and his parents said goodbye to the last guests. While not one who was known for exercising self-control, he succumbed to the urge to eat the remaining desserts that remained on the kitchen table, to then escape to his bedroom, review his two options, either university or the military.

               He sat down at his desk in his bedroom, slowly thumbed through the pile of paperwork and woke up the next morning with his forehead resting on the desk in a puddle of drool. “Oof, that was a bad idea,” he grumbled. “Okay then, now is the time to make that decision, I think I’ve had enough of submission to academic authority, being forced to provide the answers the professors want to hear, so I guess that means I’ll be going into the Navy.” Slowly and gently lifting himself from his desk, he took a shower, put on soft and comfortable clothes, did some light stretching, unable to touch his toes as his stomach had grown too large for his frame.

               He staggered from his room, shuffled into the kitchen, poured himself a very large mug of coffee, sat down at the table with his father and shared that he finally made the decision to become part of the Navy. “I think that is a great idea,” his father said, “taking on a military life will give you a life structure in which to learn obedience and self-control. You turned eighteen about three weeks ago, so I would strongly suggest going in to the Navy office today to take care of the paperwork.”

               Finishing his coffee, his peanut butter toast and a banana, he rose from his seat, patted his father on his back and agreed with his suggestion for the day. He began a slow walk down the hallway to meet his mother as she emerged from the bathroom, the two of them shared a hug and he shared with her his plan to enter the Navy, “Dad can give you the details while you eat your breakfast.”

               After finishing lunch that day, he borrowed his mother’s car and drove to the Navy enlistment office to engage in a robust and exciting conversation about his plans, to sign paperwork and learn that he had five weeks before he needed to travel to the nearest Navy port. He shook hands with the enrollment officer, drove home, and shared the details with his mother about the meeting. He could see the look of disappointment on her face when he notified her that he would be departing for the open sea in five weeks.

               In what became a monthly pattern, he wrote a letter home to his parents sharing very little about what he was doing, anything about where he was, and his plan to re-enlist once his current duty was complete. Six years passed giving Douglas a great deal of time to make more plans about what to do when he finished his time of enlistment once he returned home. As his tour came to an end, the massive ship departed its current position in the Middle East and arrived at port on the coast of the western United States.

               Thrilled at the prospect of being a regular US citizen once again, and having the option to take on a regular job with a consistent income, to spend time with friends and family members, as the ship docked, he hurried across the parking lot to hug his parents as they had driven many hours to bring their boy home. Passionate and thrilled at the forthcoming home cooked meals when he arrived at home, he retrieved his gear from the trunk, hurried inside, took a shower, and found his mind whirling at who he would visit first after eating dinner.

               Now over twenty-four years of age, he placed multiple phone calls, notifying friends and family that he was now home for good and was looking forward to spending time reconnecting with them over the next several days. Douglas, his father, and his mother finished their dinner, sat together in the living room and began watching television until he fell asleep to awaken to a dark and silent house. “Ugh, that was a bad idea,” he thought, “time to crawl into bed and sleep well.”

               A full stomach, a comfortable bed, and the silence of a regular home without the gentle rocking of the ocean beneath him, allowed him to sleep well and feel rested the next morning. Staggering out of bed, he looked at himself in the mirror and made the decision to grow a beard, as he had been clean shaven for the last six years. Carefully creating clean edges to a beard that would eventually fill in over the next several months, he dressed in civilian clothes and joined his parents for breakfast.

               When the meal was completed, he found a blanket from the closet, slipped outside and laid in the back lawn under the warm sun to enjoy a normal life without being surrounded by fellow soldiers, seagulls, and the constant rocking of the ocean. The beauty, warmth, and comfort lulled him back to sleep to be awakened less than an hour later by his three best friends who had driven over to see him.

               “Hey, Douglas, wake up,” one of them said giving him a gentle kick in his right calf. “We’ve been talking with several of the guys and we’re all going to get together today and find you a good job.”

               “Ugh, hey guys, it’s great to see you,” Douglas said. “Yeah, that sounds great, let’s see what we can put together.” He rolled to his side, stood up, and wandered into the house with his three friends. “Hang on, I need to brush my teeth, my mouth tastes like something died in it.”

               “Yes, please do,” one of them said, “the last thing we need is for you to have jungle breath as we’re trapped in the car with you.”

               The four young men, all around the age of twenty-four shuffled out to the car, drove into town and met at a local pub to enjoy a cool pint, some chicken wings, and engage in social conversation. The table was soon full of good friends all thrilled that Douglas had returned after being gone for so long.

               “Oh, hey, a few of us had a good idea,” one of them said, “the pastor at the local independent church just retired and we were thinking that you could easily step in and takeover that role as pastor. You’ve always had a great gift at teaching and leadership; we all can meet with the elders there and see how that conversation goes.

               “Oh, wow,” Douglas said, “sure that could be an interesting conversation, yes, I agree that would be a great job and an opportunity to educate and guide people who need help in that area.” The four young men finished their beer, their snacks, and left the pub to meet with the elders for a two-hour meeting. The meeting came to a beautiful and encouraging conclusion with an invitation for Douglas to take the pulpit the next weekend.

               “Thank you so much for the invitation,” Douglas said, “I’ll have a sermon ready for next weekend. I believe this will be a perfect arrangement for everyone involved, we’ll stay in touch and keep this congregation growing and succeeding.” After six months of occasionally preaching, he met a wonderful young lady to whom he eventually proposed and began growing a family of his own.

               Douglas accepted the position as head pastor, saw growth in the congregation, and eventually the congregation began forming other congregations in surrounding cities as he began writing books, delivering lectures, holding debates, and forming more organizations built on what his imagination called authentic Christianity. Two decades passed with continued growth, until many other groups in the area began opposing the different theological positions and beliefs he continued to espouse.

               Now with a congregation of twelve hundred people, his phone beeped with a message from his secretary that three college girls from the congregation wanted to meet with him at some point today to discuss an idea they had to raise money for the college group. “Yes, that sounds good, Ellen,” he said, “I think I can meet with them today at three o’clock, do you have any idea what they are thinking?”

               “I’m sorry, Pastor Douglas, I do not,” she said, “you should probably record the conversation so that no details are missed or misunderstood.”

               “That is a great idea,” he said, “please contact them and tell them to be here at three o’clock today.”

               Releasing a long and tired breath, he leaned back in his chair and realized that his stomach had grown disgustingly large after leaving the Navy. “Alright, let’s see here,” he thought, glancing at his watch, “I have two hours before they arrive, I am so curious what this is about.” Manspreading his legs, he leaned his forehead on his desk and took a short nap before his next meeting. The alarm on his phone sounded at two-forty-five, giving him a few moments to wake up, clear his head, and be prepared for the mysterious meeting.

               Rising from his desk, he slowly walked around the church office, feeling slightly winded, feeling remarkably fat and out of shape. He saw a car pull into the parking lot and quickly returned to his office to set up his phone to video record the meeting before the trio of college girls arrived with their thoughts. He sat down, arranged his phone and heard a light knock on his door. “Yes, please come in,” he said.

               The three girls entered his office wearing yoga pants and sports bras, looking slightly sweaty and excited to share their idea. “Please take a seat and tell me what you’re thinking,” he said.

               “Thank you for meeting with us,” one of them said. “The college group is always looking for ways to raise money so we can organize events to draw more people into our church. Here is our idea,” she continued, “there are about thirty people in the college group and someone came up with the idea of having a topless car wash, which I am sure would raise a great deal of money.”

               “Oh my,” he said, “here, write your names, your phone numbers and the names of your parents in this notebook. I will need to meet with the elders and discuss if this would be a wise or safe idea to pursue.” Each girl took the notebook, wrote down the requested information and returned the notebook to him.

               “Very good, thank you,” Douglas said, “I’ll be in touch once a decision is made.”

               He watched the girls leave his office, and immediately placed multiple phone calls to the elders of the Church to share the idea just communicated to him. After four brief conversations with the elders, he then placed calls to the girls’ parents about their idea. The next evening, Pastor Douglas and the elders met to discuss in detail the possibility of pursuing an event like this to raise money for the college group.

               “If we are going to pursue an event like this,” one of the elders said, “it will need to take place somewhere that is not visible to the general public, it will need to be discreet and hidden so we do not get into trouble with indecent exposure.” The decision was made to allow this event to take place if this criterion was met.

               “Okay, I’ll make the phone calls,” Douglas said, “and I’ll report back the details to all of you when those decisions are made.” The elders left his office, giving him a few minutes to make the necessary phone calls, in which he put the rules in place, to learn that a location had already been chosen, inside of an abandoned warehouse that could not be seen from the street or sidewalk.

               Two weekends later, the topless carwash took place and the college group earned over one thousand dollars for their efforts. Unsurprisingly, the majority of their customers were middle aged men, college guys, and high school boys, more than happy to pay for a car wash and soapy show. As five o’clock that afternoon arrived, they called in those advertising with signs, closed the doors and happily counted their money.

               Three months later, Douglas was invited to speak at a town wide conference, to explain and defend his various positions on slavery, on alcohol, on abortion, and the appropriate role of women in the marriage relationship. He and two other men sat the front of the auditorium to discuss and debate these topics while the auditorium was nearly filled with almost one thousand people. Two microphones were placed on the floor at the front of the stage to allow for questions to be asked and clarified.

               There was an awkward pause in the discussion, when a very loud, powerful voice boomed from the center of the room, “Why..are..you..so..fat?” it asked. Douglas looked down at his stomach which was hanging below the seat upon which he sat. A very short man approached one of the microphones and shared his thoughts on the question.

               “It seems to me that Pastor Douglas has no concept of the idea of self-control as he clearly eats way too much with no seeming ability to eat only what is necessary to keep his body in good form,” the man said. No more thoughts or words were shared at this point, so Douglas and the other two men sat on the stage and watched the auditorium slowly empty.

               “Well, that was an odd ending,” Douglas said. “I wish I had the opportunity to provide an answer. Overall, that conference seemed to be an attack upon what we are preaching and teaching at our congregation. I would say that most in the auditorium were vehemently opposed to our existence and goals.”

               “Yes, I agree,” one of the other men said. “It is unfortunate that you were not able to better communicate your position on leniency for those guilty of pedophilia and possession of child pornography. The mere fact that there are five instances of people connected with your congregation and other congregations being guilty of these crimes has a great number of people fighting against you. This is something you need to directly address and answer. The abuse of children is not something that normal people will ignore. You need to take a harder stand on this topic and deal with this among your own people and the other congregations that are associated with you.”

               “From what we are seeing in the national news,” the other man said, “this crime against children is growing at an exponential rate across the entire country. You need to be more vocal, more direct, and more aggressive against those guilty of these crimes. Those people not connected to any church will not understand the idea of not condemning others especially when it is in regards to protecting children.”

               “Yes, I completely agree,” Douglas said as he pulled himself to his feet, breathing hard and shuffling across the stage to descend to the auditorium floor and drive home. His mind was a whirlwind about how to answer these questions about pedophilia and child pornography. “Wow, this is going to take a great deal of thought, planning, and explanation,” the thought. “I cannot soft sell this problem, it needs to be directly addressed, confronted and answered.”

               Heaving himself from his car as he parked near his back door, he shuffled up the sidewalk, ascended the four steps to pass through the back door, ridiculously winded he sat down on his recliner to watch the news and wait for his wife to join him for a discussion about the conference.

               “So how did the conference go?” she asked.

               “From my perspective, it did not go very well,” he answered, “there were at least one thousand people there and it seemed that almost everyone was opposed to my explanations, my answers, and everything we teach at our congregation. Oh, also, something funny, there was a pause in the discussion when someone in the auditorium asked in a very loud voice, why I was so fat. Unfortunately, I did not have the opportunity to give an answer, a random man from the audience spoke up first and said that I clearly had no self-control when it came to eating.”

               “Speaking of eating, dinner will be ready in about thirty minutes,” she said. “You probably have time to take a short nap if you so desire. It will be just you and I eating together tonight, the children have other plans.”