Living with you is a Challenge

 

                Eric sat on the edge of his bed thinking about the many decisions that had been made over the last thirty years and wondering how his current lifestyle would be different if different decisions had been made during this time. His heart and mind were a maelstrom of different ideas, different thoughts, and different paths, forcing him to wonder about a different future. Releasing a long, frustrated sigh, he flopped back onto his mattress and knew that there was only one path forward.

               “A different perspective, I need a different perspective,” he grumbled to himself. Psychologists talk about viewing one’s life and life decisions from a ten-thousand-foot view, I wonder what I’ll see if I take that approach? Feeling like he was in the middle of a tornado, he closed his eyes and saw himself ascending a tower to look down upon the small city in which he and his lived. “They look like ants,” he thought, “maybe I’ll just watch for a while and see what comes from taking on this perspective.”

               The wind was slight and the temperature was comfortably warm, allowing him to focus on everything that was going on far below him. “Okay, be careful, be attentive, and remember what you see from those you know,” he said. It was at that moment that he realized that most of those below him were surrounded by a dark cloud but there were a few who emanated a golden glow but number was very small. “That’s really curious,” he said to himself.

               The sound of someone calling his name pulled him from his vivid imagination and high-level view. Pulling himself to his feet, he descended the stairs to find that dinner was ready and everyone seemed to be grumpy about his late arrival. “Sorry, everyone,” he said, “I dozed off for a few minutes and was having an incredibly vivid dream. Dinner looks really good.”

               Vigorously rubbing his face, he realized that everyone at the table emanated that same golden glow except for one person who was surrounded in a dark cloud and always appeared grumpy and sullen. “Hey, I was thinking that after dinner we all could take a walk and enjoy the sunshine, the gentle breeze, and the beauty of nature.” The response did not come as a surprise, as those who were glowing gold all responded positively and the dark, sullen one, quickly finished her dinner, left the table, and barked orders for everyone to clean up before they all left for their walk.

               Within twenty minutes, everyone completed their dinner, and rose to clear their places, organize the kitchen, find their shoes and jackets and hurry outside for a fun filled family walk, save one person who merely grumbled in her solitude. He and those with him weaved through a number of residential neighborhoods and as they walked, he realized that most of those they passed by or interacted with carried the same dark cloud and sullen attitude.

               “Hey everyone, I have been thinking about how important it is to be filled with joy, to be kind to others, and to always do good to those around you,” he said. “Being a light and a joy to everyone you meet will make our community a better place.” Darkness slowly began to settle, prompting everyone to increase their speed and return home. As they all pushed into the house, Eric found a note on the kitchen table, calling him a number of foul, crude, and vulgar names, complaining that they had all abandoned her and she was now gone forever.

               He quickly shoved the note into his pocket to listen to the children wander around the house calling the name of the one now missing. “It looks like she’s gone,” one of them said. “This is really odd, I wonder why she just disappeared without saying anything?”

               “I don’t think we have anything to worry about,” Eric said. “As you get older and interact with different people, you’ll come to realize that people will oftentimes make bad decisions without giving any consideration to the consequences of their actions. Everyone needs to shower or bathe tonight before going to bed. I guess we’ll see what tomorrow brings.”

               A round of arguments, complaints, and demands for who would shower first erupted as everyone hurried to their bedrooms to gather whatever was necessary to make the evening come to a conclusion. Sixty minutes passed and the final child emerged from the shower with the suggestion that they all watch a movie together before going to bed. “I think that’s a great idea,” Eric said. “It is always good to do things together as a family. I’ll make some popcorn while you all decide on which movie to watch.”

               Bumping around the kitchen, Eric generated two massive bowls of popcorn, and a case of soda from the fridge to find that the children decided on an action movie. He passed out the snacks and drinks, dimmed the lights and called for someone to start the movie so the hour didn’t get too late. “You all have school tomorrow and I have work, so let’s not get to bed too late tonight.”

               The movie ended amidst munching of popcorn and the popping open of soda cans. “Alright, everyone brush your teeth and get to bed as soon as possible,” he said. “I’ll clean up while you get yourselves in order.” Following a mini stampede, the house was silent within twenty minutes, giving him time to get the house clean and in order. “Wow, what a weird night,” he grumbled. “Looking at this from a ten-thousand-foot perspective, I wonder what I’ll find in the morning.”

               “As much as I love a good metaphor,” he thought, “the events of this evening are like someone who deliberately smashes each finger with a hammer without giving any thought of the consequences.” Eric lay down in the center of the living room floor, took several deep breathes, and relaxed every inch of his body. “Alright, get moving,” he grumbled.

               Rising to his feet in a perfectly relaxed state, he locked all the doors and windows to take a shower and climb into an empty bed. “A challenge,” he said to himself, “that is exactly what this evening has become. Living with this kind of nonsense is a serious challenge. I wonder what I’ll find in the morning?”

               Pulled from a beautiful slumber, the door bell stirred him moments after his alarm sounded. “Oof, who would be ringing my doorbell at this hour?” he wondered. He quickly pulled himself from bed, threw on some clothes and hurried to the front door to find two police officers looking depressed and apologetic.

               “Hello, sir,” one of them said. “We have some terrible news to share with you. We received a call from an anonymous caller about four hours ago. They reported that they saw someone throw themselves from a bridge into oncoming traffic to be destroyed after striking the pavement. We were able to gather her information and came over at what seemed like a reasonable time.

               Eric could feel the contents of his stomach rise up into his throat, to then lean upon the doorframe and wonder how he would communicate this message to the still sleeping children. “I am so sorry for your loss, sir,” the other officer said. “We’ll need you to come to the hospital at some point today and confirm her identity.”

               “Yes, of course, I can do that later this morning,” he answered. Eric then watched as the two officers returned to their car and drive away. “Okay, Eric, act normal, get the kids ready for school and invent a story that she will not be returning. You can tell them after you visit the hospital. We’ll consider it abandonment and not suicide.” He slipped into the kitchen and started a large pot of oatmeal to fill the children with a meal of nutritional value.

               “Okay, Eric, you need to come up with a believable story, so the kids won’t see through the deception. Oh, I know, I’ll say that she stopped by to say that she would never return and had more important things to do.” The padding of feet sounded on the stairs and he was soon joined by all five children at the dining room table. Breakfast was served, the food was consumed, and the children quickly changed into their school clothes to disappear for the day.

               As he watched the school buses come and go, he collapsed on the couch, knowing that he had an unavoidable journey to the hospital to confirm her identity. After two hours of work from home, he explained his situation to his boss and made the tragic journey across town to the hospital. He inquired at the front desk, explained the situation, and was given directions to the morgue. He approached the door and was invited in as the doctor in charge pulled back the sheet to expose a pale and slightly blue face. “Ugh, yes, that is her,” he said. “This is not how a relationship is supposed to end.”

               “I’ll give you a few minutes, sir,” the doctor said. “I need to go upstairs to a meeting for about an hour. You can speak whatever words you need to say. Let yourself out when you have exhausted your thoughts and ideas.”

               Eric looked down at the cold and lifeless corpse. “This is so stupid, you idiot,” he said. “All of this should not have happened this way. You clearly didn’t think about the final consequences of your actions. Living with you was a challenge but you clearly put an end to all of it. How am I going to explain this to the kids?”

               He returned home, completed his last six hours of work, began preparing dinner and welcomed each child when they entered the home. As they gathered together for dinner, Eric cleared his throat and explained that he had some terrible news to share. The look of despair on their faces tore at his heart. “I don’t know if anyone heard the doorbell this morning, but your mother stopped by and declared that she would never return and had better things to do. So, from now on, it will be you kids and me keeping everything in order. We have no way to communicate or connect with her; she gave no more information other than the fact that she would not return.”

Look at What You've Done

 

            Annabelle grew up in an abusive situation, her mother hated her, told her she was ugly and fat and good for nothing other than to be used by men. “If you make yourself easily accessible and willing to do whatever any man tells you to do, you will be able to earn a great deal of money.” These words played over and over in Annabelle’s mind for months and years, not knowing to believe anything else, she simply trusted her mother’s direction and followed her advice.

               As she reached her sixteenth year, she found that many of the boys at school were more than happy to pay her a lot of money to give herself to them, to be used by them, and to eventually fade away as nothing more than an object for pleasure. As hundreds of dollars came to her each week, she began to purchase the things that made her happy; clothing, perfume, jewelry, birth control pills, and the morning after pill.

               She continued this for the next six years as she finished high school and university. After graduating from university, she eventually figured out that her current path of earning money greatly exceeded her vocational salary. She remained living with her parents until she graduated and was disgusted to be regularly visited by her father, her uncles, her brothers, and her cousins, all demanding the same attention.

               Weeks turned into months which turned into years and her bank account continued to grow and her soul eventually become an aching void of feeling used and abused. “I have had enough of this,” she grumbled to herself, “now is the time to find my own apartment and focus my attention on my regular job. I am done being the play thing for so many random men who truly don’t care about me.”

               Annabelle spent every evening after work, searching for an apartment that was relatively close to her place of work. After three weeks of searching, she found the perfect apartment that was close enough for her to walk to work and allowed her to avoid her lecherous family. Using her feminine charm, she convinced four men from her place of work to help her load her things into a moving truck and unload them into her new apartment. Her efforts paid off and at the same time she needed to offer the use of her body to pay for their help.

               Moving day arrived and Annabelle reserved a moving truck, walked to the rental company, paid the necessary fees and met her four workers at her parent’s home. The five of them emptied her room in less than one hour, loaded the truck, and quickly transferred all of her belongings into her new apartment. All four men offered to help her unpack, set up furniture, and receive their payment before they left for the day. In a whirlwind of attention, Annabelle watched as all four men left at the same time, leaving her feeling sore and tired.

               “Phew, no more of that,” she said out loud. “I will be perfectly happy if I never interact with another man for the rest of my life.” As she listened to the front door close, she crawled from her bed, crossed through the living room, and locked the door. “Wow, that was really rough,” she said. “I need to take a shower and get something to eat.” Limping into the bathroom, she took a relatively cool shower, washed her hair, dressed in comfortable clothes, and called for a food delivery service to bring her dinner.

               Within forty-five minutes, a knock sounded on her front door to reveal a college age girl holding her still hot dinner. “Oh, thank goodness,” she said. “I am starving. Here’s your tip. Have a good day.” She paused to look around her apartment which had been beautifully set up and arranged to then sit down at the dining room table. “I need some music,” she thought. “That will take my mind off of things and maybe I can put together a different approach to life.”

               As she finished her dinner of Mexican food, with a side of chips and salsa, she was happy to find a bottle of fruit juice in her fridge. Releasing a wide and aggressive yawn, she looked at the time and realized that it was only seven o’clock in the evening. “Wow, I am so tired, I guess I should not be surprised at that,” she thought. “Moving all of that furniture and the big group thing that happened just a couple of hours ago. I need to go to bed early.”

               Staying in her comfortable clothes, she stretched out on the living room floor, and performed about twenty minutes of yoga to relax her body. “What is going on outside?” she wondered. “Look at that, what a beautiful sunset,” as she peeked through the blinds. “I should probably make an effort to meet some of my neighbors, that can wait until tomorrow or the next day, I suppose.”

               Stepping away from the window, she shuffled into her bedroom, put away her clothes, set up her clock, changed her sheets, and snuggled under two cozy blankets. Waking up in absolute darkness, Annabelle felt confused with her surroundings, eventually remembering that she had moved into a new location to see that it was already one in the morning. The sound of someone banging on her door ripped her from her much needed sleep. She put on her slippers, peeked through the door viewer and saw her father staring at her door with his arms folded, looking very angry.

               “Nope, I am not opening this door,” she thought. “I am going back to sleep. I need to be rested for the next day of work.” Sliding back under her covers, she drifted once again into sleep to again be wakened by more knocking. “This is dumb,” she grumbled. “Call the police, Annabelle,” she told herself. She dialed 911 and reported that someone was causing a great deal of noise and aggression outside of her apartment door. Within thirty minutes, she saw a police cruiser approach the building, to then watch two officers enter the building.

               Stepping to the door viewer, she watched as the police officers hauled her angry father away from her door, down the stairs, and place him in the back of their car. “Oh, thank God,” she said. “Now I can go back to sleep without being interrupted again.” Annabelle was pulled from sleep by her six o’clock alarm. “Ugh, well at least I feel rested now. I hope I can find something for breakfast before I go to work.”

               Freshly showered, she dressed for a day of professional work, quietly left the apartment building and began her short walk to work. “Oof, I am so hungry, I guess I can pick up some pastries and a coffee on my walk,” she thought. Smiling and waving at a few people as she left her apartment building, she spied a coffee shop a few blocks ahead, which offered a large variety of breakfast foods.

               Walking, drinking, and eating, she finished her small meal before arriving at work. She took her place at her desk and worked very hard to avoid interacting with the four men who helped her move the day before. “That’s it, no more men for me,” she grumbled. “What does a new life for Annabelle look like now?” she wondered. “I wonder if I can find a good man who will genuinely love me for who I am and not for what he can take from me?”

               Three months passed and she began interacting with multiple people in her apartment building. Her dream came true when she met a handsome and kind young man about her age on the floor below hers. He introduced himself as Timothy, invited her out for dinner, and the two of them spent the following Friday evening enjoying a pleasant meal, a long genuine conversation, to learn the details of one another’s lives. Annabelle of course, did not reveal her lecherous past and invented a story about a kind, loving family and her great success at work, and in investing.

               Two years passed and Timothy eventually proposed to Annabelle, giving them a few months to plan for the wedding. When the wedding invitation list was formed, Annabelle only invited friends, inventing the story that her family lived on the opposite side of the country and were not willing to travel to attend the wedding. The few months passed, Timothy and Annabelle enjoyed a beautiful wedding ceremony, and a three-week honeymoon in Paris, France.

               Their marriage started out as a beautiful relationship to eventually slide into a cacophony of anger, mistrust, and empty accusations. On several occasions, Annabelle caught Timothy spending time with other women, whom he had met on various dating services, which only fed the fuel of her anger and disappointment. In the face of gross adultery, she filed for divorce and once again found herself alone and wondering what she had done wrong.

               “You didn’t do anything wrong, Annabelle,” she told herself. “It seems that all men are the same. I am so disappointed. I guess I’ll need to find some girlfriends who will not betray my trust or turn against me.” Chapter three of Annabelle’s life turned out to be radically different than the first two chapters. Now with a friendly and chatty roommate, she found a good and true friend who cared for her, and asked her questions to help her make her life a good and beautiful thing.

               Annabelle and her roommate Jennifer, slowly grew old together, never having children, and both vowing to never be involved with men ever again. Jennifer reached her eighty-fifth year and Annabelle found that her life had come to an end one morning when she woke up early to check on her friend. “Oh, this is terrible,” she thought, “now I’m alone again. I guess I ought to call 911 and find out what we need to do.”

               Annabelle sat on her couch, curled up in a ball, and watched as the EMT’s rolled the gurney out of their apartment with a cold and lifeless Jennifer. Three hours later, a grief counselor came to her door to offer words of consolation and questions about her plans now that she was alone.

               “Thank you for coming over,” Annabelle said. “I am getting very old so maybe I’ll move into an assisted care facility so I can be with others like myself.”

               “I believe that is a great idea,” the woman said. “I can suggest a few locations and I can take you can visit each one so you can make an informed decision. It is not good for someone to be alone all the time. I’ll return tomorrow afternoon with this information and we can work through it together. I believe this is a good path for you. I am sorry for your loss. I’ll see you tomorrow.”

               The two women hugged, said goodbye again and wiped tears from their eyes. Annabelle returned to her couch, wrapped herself in a blanket and resumed her balled up position, feeling empty and lonely, wondering what the rest of the evening and the next day would look like.

              

An Unending Descent

 

            Alexander sat in his living room watching the news which gave consistent reports of the descent of a neighboring country into chaos, suffering, and death. After two months of watching this constant feed of depression, he pulled away from it, wondering if another country would intervene and assist in slowing the descent into devastation. “You are what you take in,” he said to himself. “I really don’t need to be involved in this consistent feed of pain and suffering. There is really nothing that I, as an individual can do to help.”

               Still wearing his pajamas from that morning, he shuffled into his bathroom, washed his hands and face, combed his hair and made the decision to dress into his workout clothes and get into the sunshine outside. Before stepping outside, he worked through a long series of stretches and memories of those he knew, drawing a painful parallel between the horrible news and the life of one of his former associates.

               “Phew, okay, time to get outside and enjoy the warmth and fresh air,” he thought. Before leaving through his front door, he filled a water bottle to take with him, knowing that a long walk in this kind of heat would require additional hydration. As he reached the sidewalk, he created a picture in his mind of his path forward, making a deliberate decision to walk past the home of a former friend who had betrayed him so many years before.

               He began his walk and covered about two miles distance, to slow down as he passed by her house to see an overgrown lawn, a broken-down vehicle in the driveway, and overall decay of the home. “Man, that is so sad,” he muttered. “You really have to wonder what someone is thinking to allow themselves to continue down a path of self-destruction.”

               After passing through three different neighborhoods, he reached a series of strip malls and was moved to buy a dozen doughnuts to enjoy during the coming week. He slipped into a small bakery, purchased a dozen maple bars, left a substantial tip, and continued his journey on the path he had previously envisioned. The beautiful and well-manicured homes of the local neighborhoods transitioned into strip malls, and eventually into poverty-stricken inner city.

                As he reached the edge of the inner city, he could see dozens of scantily clad women standing on the corner one block ahead of him. “I am not going to continue in that direction,” he grumbled. “The last thing I want is to be approached by, or interact with women like that. Hey, wait a minute, that’s my former friend who turned away from me so long ago, and started down the path of self-destruction. Seeing her like this explains why her life and her home look the way they do.”

               Alexander stopped at the corner, crossed the street, and began his journey back home. “This is a horrible situation,” he thought. “Just like the devastation going on in the news, there is nothing I can do to help this situation. If someone refuses an offer of help, refuses to talk, and is intent on continuing into self-destruction, there is nothing I can do.” Continuing for half a block, he sat down on a bench at the edge of a park and looked back at the collection of sad, broken, and corrupted women.

               “Wow, this is so bad and ugly,” he muttered. As he slowly consumed a single doughnut, he watched as one woman after another climbed into various vehicles, selling themselves for cash. “What kind of mindset must a woman be in to put herself into that situation,” he wondered. “The psychological torment, the abuse, and the soul crushing interaction is hardly worth any large amount of money.”

               Tempted to begin on a second doughnut, he resisted the urge, brushed the crumbs from his fingers and lap and continued his journey home. As he passed the residence of his former associate, he saw a car pull into her driveway as she and an elderly man climbed from the vehicle to slip inside the house. “Like I said earlier, there is nothing I can do if someone wants to make bad decisions that will ultimately ruin their life.”

               In what became a pattern every six days, he eventually finished his bag of doughnuts, began taking walks on his predetermined path, to see the home of his former associate continue its decline into chaos and noise. “I really need to buy another bag of doughnuts,” he said, after entering and leaving the store, he avoided the corner a block ahead of him. “Same as always, I really have no interest in weaving through that ugly situation or interacting with women like that.”

               In what became a regular pattern for him, he turned one block early, sat on the park bench and felt sad for the decisions that so many women like this were making. After finishing his one doughnut, he rose to his feet, and continued his path home, to once again see his former associate enter her decaying home with another strange, elderly man. “Oof, what a life to live, what a price to pay in order to take in enough money,” he lamented. “Too bad, so sad.”

               This regular pattern continued for five more years and after the passing of this time, he no longer saw his former associate on the corner. “Getting too old for that kind of work, I suppose,” he said. “Now what is she going to do?” He knew that she had children that were most likely being neglected and possibly abused, feeling sick at the idea of children being subjected to that sort of lifestyle and corruption.

               “Okay, no more doughnuts,” he said to himself. “I think I’ll swing through the grocery store and buy some fruit instead.” The closest grocery store was three blocks past the corner of corruption and depravity. Instead of stopping for doughnuts, he moved to the other side of the street, continued on his way and purchased a bag of apples. As he watched the corner full of women on his way home, he felt sick inside at the young age of so many of them. “This is just so wrong,” he grumbled.

               “All of this walking and change to healthy eating will certainly improve my quality of life,” he said to himself. As Alexander approached the home of his former associate, he was shocked to see that the house was for sale, the yard had been cleaned and organized and he wondered what exactly had happened to come to this. “I guess we’ll see if someone decent buys the house and takes care of it.”

               He returned home with his bag of apples, retrieved his mail from his mailbox and found an invitation to a funeral three days hence. Unlocking his front door, he dropped his apples into his refrigerator, sat down, and opened the invitation. “I guess I shouldn’t be surprised,” he grumbled, “it is exactly who I knew it would be. I suppose the decent thing would be to attend the service and interact with everyone there. Not like I really have any interest in being there but I should do the right thing.”

               Now being fully retired, he rose early that morning, showered, dressed in his best clothing and drove to the cemetery for the service. “Would you look at that,” he said, “I am only seeing about eight people standing around the gravesite.” He parked a short distance away, slowly approached the small group, smiled and said hello to listen to an unknown pastor talk about the departed in words that were easily too kind and actually dishonest.

               The pastor finished his short eulogy and invited anyone else to offer a few words if they had any. No one took advantage of his offer and Alexander casually interacted with the few people there, asking questions about how they knew her, what was the cause of her demise and if she had any family in the area. He learned that she had died from multiple STD’s and loneliness, reaching an age when her chosen line of work was no longer possible.

               Offering words of consolation to those who attended her funeral, he departed alone, returned home, and placed a few phone calls with those who formerly knew her or had been friends with her in the past. Communicating the sad news of her demise, he did his best to speak highly of her without sounding judgmental. After multiple phone calls, he and some of them agreed to gather for a small reunion and possibly dinner.

               He felt torn up inside as he thought about the troubling past, the terrible path that she had chosen to finish her life and the negative impact those choices had upon those who knew her, were related to her, and were devastated at her path into a life of corruption and deception. Alexander spent the next three hours wondering about the meaning of it all and if there was anything he could do to help those impacted by her choice of lifestyle.

               Four more days passed and after a pleasant meal with former friends, he relived fond memories, good vacations, and time with her and them, to find himself aching inside when he returned home. “Alright then, time to move forward because now there is nothing else that can be done, other than making the best version of myself as I move through the next several decades.”

I'll Meet You at the End

 

            It was an attraction of opposites that left most people baffled and confused. Similar to combining water and oil, they mixed for a little while and eventually struggled through the disconnect and made it work. Promises were made with the best of intentions, ideas were formed based on guesswork and hopes for change and after decades of hard work, interaction, and faithfulness, eventually the entire situation fell apart.

               One gave up and the other continued to be faithful, committed and passionate about achieving resolution. The day finally came when unfaithfulness won the battle, disappointment filled every corner of every conversation, and the weight of failure brought despair and anger to the surface. After many months of the one no longer caring or no longer trying to find resolution, the truth of the situation came to a head, revealing an adulterous relationship that seemed to be more important than anything else.

               Money became the driving force behind every decision, all of the decades of hard work were thrown away as if the hoped for future would provide something better. Like watching a beautiful building that had been decades under construction burn to the ground with no one seeming to care. Like finding a container of food in the back of the refrigerator that had become green and hairy, everything was thrown away to begin something new.

               After several years of separation, it became obvious that money was the most important aspect of the new reality. Promises that had been made by some and others, some of these turned into nothing of value and some of them proved to be lies and deception. Every effort was made by one of them while the other was more focused on vanity, finances, and creating a good image for others to observe and comment on.

               Like someone in the midwestern states on their front porch watching a tornado pass by destroying and devouring everything in its path, all of the hard work obviously became nothing of importance. Like metal left out in the rain to eventually become nothing but a pile of rust and waste, a new beginning was clearly the new reality. So much hard work, so much commitment, and so many plans that never came to fruition, reality was now redefined.

               Many more years passed, which turned into decades and one watched as the other transitioned into emptiness, ingratitude, and selfishness, bringing about nothing of value for the one but great success and a glorious future for the other. Old age became the new reality with fatigue, aches, and glorious plans by one and not the other. Solitude became reality for one and not the other, which eventually led to grief, isolation, and nothing of value for the near future.

               Animosity, anger, and disappointment became the new reality for one and not the other, all of this due to obvious dishonesty, unkind words, and jealousy. One of them grew in new relationships, new friends, and a new community which eventually led to a path that led toward holiness and growth. One could feel the end drawing near, with a great desire to communicate a message to the other, knowing what awaited them on the other side but uncertain about the status of the other on the other side.

               “I’ll meet you at the end,” was the message he wished he could communicate. One watched from a distance, wondering what was taking place inside the mind and heart of the other, wondering what had happened so many years before to lead them to this place and situation. Age was catching up to both of them, hair was becoming gray, wrinkles were appearing, some relationships were destroyed, while others were created, sometimes based on deception and plastic images.

               A radical new reality stepped into place, bringing with it new opportunities, new plans to be formed and pursued, and hopes for something greater and better than had ever been possible before. “Age is irrelevant,” one said to himself, “there is so much to be done, so much to accomplish, and a great deal of good that can be brought to completion.” Making the most of his time, one continued their path of success refusing to be distracted by the emptiness and inanity of the culture around him.

               From one perspective, everything seemed to be falling apart, from the other perspective many great things were being accomplished which were leading to improvements, growth, and maturity. The deception caught up with the one while the other continued to ask questions, find answers, and bring restoration to as many categories of life.

               More years continued to pass and they watched the details of how reality was slowly transitioning, leaving one in isolation and solitude, while the other was developing great new, healthy relationships, new friends, and a new community, all of which brought joy and happiness. The other began to wonder where they had gone wrong, eventually realizing that decisions were made that led to this place with nothing of value to show for it.

               The old relationship was now dead, with no genuine interaction, no communication, and nothing of value passing between them. They both continued to grow old, watching marriages take place, grandchildren born, with regret for one but not the other. Both knowing that the meeting at the end of time would come sooner than expected, communication was fabricated, dialog that would most likely never take place, and restoration that would never be.

               The emptiness and vanity of their differing cultures gave one of them nothing of value and they waited for the transition from the current reality into the eternal reality. A life of empty distraction brought no joy, no satisfaction, and no true happiness for the one, while the other put great effort into ignoring the worldly culture that surrounded them, while the other seemed to joyfully embrace the inanity of it all.

               With a perfectly sized new home, graciously remodeled and beautifully crafted, showing the difference of internal versus external. One lived a life that was only thin, cheap, and hollow, while the other crafted every aspect of life toward truth and beauty, pressing toward goodness and love. The end of the first century of their lives drew near and they both wondered who would be the first to depart. One of them watched and wondered while the other finally let go to drift into eternity.

               “Well, there you have it,” one of them said. “I wonder how long I have before I can communicate the final message when we meet on the other side?”

               He spent the next ten years being creative, interacting with his children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren, knowing that his time would eventually come to an end. Many years before he created an emergency contact list for the day when someone would find him cold and stiff in his beautiful home. Sleeping more than he had in the past, he spent his time reading, learning, creating, and making new friends.

               Eventually crawling out of bed around ten in the morning, he put on several layers of clothing, started a pot of coffee, enjoyed peanut butter toast and bacon to sit down with his latest piece of non-fiction to fill his heart with truth and love. He noticed that his hands and feet had grown strangely cold, despite the fact that he was wearing three pairs of socks and multiple layers of clothing.

               “Phew, why am I so tired?” he wondered. Placing his book on the coffee table before him, he pulled himself to his feet and returned to bed to try to warm up. Within minutes of lying down, he was joined by two very large, flabby cats who understood his need to be warmed up. Drifting into what seemed a beautiful dream, he ascended into eternity to find that many of his loved ones from the past were waiting for him with open arms.

               When he landed on the edge of a beautiful grassy field, he saw her, remembered his comment crafted so many years before, approached her and said, “Well, here we are, like I wondered so many years before, I’ll meet you at the end.” Oddly, she seemed stuck in place while he continued his path toward the glorious light that was relatively close in the distance.

               “I’m sorry you made the choices you did,” he said as he departed. “I’ve got important things to do and people to see. This is our new reality and to me it seems glorious, but you seem to be stuck in place, the result of your lifetime of decisions.”

Not One but Two

 

            Menander was the only child and grew up knowing only comfort, wealth, luxury, and always getting what he wanted whenever he wanted it. On occasion he would listen to himself grumbling and complaining that he was bored, that he no friends, and wishing that he could do something that would distract him and occupy his ever-active mind. After three or four times of this type of complaint, he began to receive a back hand slap from his father with a reminder to never complain because he had more than most children his age.

               Whenever he received this sort of chastisement and correction, he would hide away in his room, continue complaining to himself, and wondering what life was like for other children who did not know or appreciate comfort and wealth. He pulled himself from the floor, flopped onto his bed and stared into the ceiling, feeling a combination of frustration and boredom.

               “Ugh, time to take a shower,” he said to himself. Setting the temperature slightly above body temperature, he stepped out, dried himself, dressed and descended to the kitchen to cut himself a piece of cheesecake with cherry topping. He sat alone at the kitchen counter having no desire to join his parents in the sitting room to listen to more chastisement and words about being thankful.

               He finished his dessert; hand washed his plate and fork and returned them to their appropriate places in the cupboards. Knowing that it would not be wise to simply disappear for the evening, he peeked into the sitting room, said goodnight, and thanked his mother for the cheesecake. Padding upstairs, he brushed his teeth, slipped into his oversize bed, and immediately fell asleep to dream about a life without comfort, safety, or loving parents.

               Menander woke the next morning to find himself in a lumpy, thin, and cold bed, surrounded by dozens of children in similar beds in the orphanage. Vigorously rubbing his face, he rose from his cold and uncomfortable state to get dressed in his state supplied, stiff and scratchy clothing. Like soldiers in a barracks, he and the other children walked in unison to the dining hall to eat a small portion of lukewarm porridge and cool water.

               “Wow, so this is what it is like,” he thought. “I am so confused. Has everything else been simply a dream? I guess I’ll just go along with what everyone else is doing and see how the rest of the day plays out.” He finished his porridge, rose from his seat and joined the rest of the children in the play yard behind the building. A rousing game of kickball started where Menander was chosen first to slowly watch the two teams build up, one obviously stronger than the other.

               The two dozen children ran in an aggressive manner, each team scoring the occasional point. Menander watched Boris, the school bully viciously kick and punch another student for being stupid and ugly. “Wow, that is just so wrong,” he said to himself. “Do I dare stand up to Boris or simply let it go. I know I could take him down and teach him a lesson. Now is the time to do the right thing.”

               He stopped running, aligned himself directly behind Boris, out of his line of sight, and rushed up to him to kick him directly in the groin and watch him collapse to the ground in agony. “Don’t pick on the little kids,” he growled at the large and ignorant fellow student. “Bad actions always lead to bad actions coming upon you.”

               The kickball game came to an end with Menander’s team winning, which was immediately followed by their return into the building for lunch. All twenty-four children shuffled into the dining hall and seated themselves upon the cold metal benches to wait until lukewarm soup and baloney sandwiches were ready. The lunch bell sounded, they rose from their places and stood in line to receive their plastic molded lunch trays laden with bland and lukewarm food.

               He finished his lunch, returned his tray to the collection window and was immediately confronted by the headmaster of the orphanage. “Menander, I need you to come with me,” he said. “I saw what you did to Boris and we need to talk.”

               “Yes, sir,” Menander answered. Boy and headmaster walked through the dining hall, ascended the stairs and entered the headmaster’s office.

               “I understand your desire for justice and kindness for the weak,” he said, “but we cannot have violence like that. I have been speaking to Boris about his abuse of the other students, so please allow me to do my job and don’t assault the other students.  Oh, one other thing. There is a husband and wife that are coming in this afternoon and they are interested in meeting with you. Please be ready by three o’clock to meet them. One of the secretaries will come for you when they arrive.”

               “Yes, sir, I will be ready,” he answered. “I think I will go take a short nap so I am rested and attentive when they arrive. Thank you, sir.”

               Menander removed his shoes, collapsed on his bed, and fell asleep, while the other children came and went from the bedrooms. At two-forty-five, the alarm on his watch sounded, pulling him from sleep. “Ah, perfect,” he said. “This will give me a few minutes to freshen up, use the bathroom, and be ready to meet these people.”

               As he rose from his bed, he slipped on his shoes, did those things that needed to be done to then return to sit on the side of his bed and wait for the secretary to retrieve him for the meeting. He and the secretary walked into the headmaster’s office to see the young couple waiting for him facing the other direction. He walked in, introduced himself, shook hands with the husband and exchanged a hug with the wife. The husband slid a chair from the opposite side of the room to face them in order to have a conversation to learn about one another.

               With his mind swirling, he stared at their faces and was stirred inside as she realized that these were the people from his dreams about a large, comfortable, wealthy home filled with love, protection, and kindness. The conversation between Menander, the husband, the wife, and the headmaster lasted for a few minutes over an hour.

               “Menander, you should go to your bedroom, pack all of your things, and we will take care of the paperwork for you to join the Johannsen’s in their home. Be quick and have everything ready. When the paperwork is complete, we will have all of your possessions brought to their car so you can move on with your life. Congratulations, my boy.”

               He could feel himself tingling inside, wondering if the house in his dreams would look anything like the Johannsen’s home. “I guess I’ll find out in a few minutes,” he thought to himself. “Yes, sir, I’ll go right away and be ready. Thank you.” Menander once again shook hands with the husband and exchanged hugs with the wife.

               He sprinted up the stairs, entered his bedroom, and quickly packed all of his possessions and clothing into a suitcase and two boxes. Trembling with excitement, he sat on the edge of his bed, waiting for the Johannsen’s to arrive and go to his forever home. He stood up, did a bit of stretching, said goodbye to the other orphans, and promised to write them on occasion with the expectation that they would write back as well.

               He and the Johannsen’s loaded his things into the trunk of their car and drove away, as he looked back one last time at the orphanage that he thought would always be his home until he reached adulthood. The car pulled into the driveway in a wealthy neighborhood and with a thrill in his heart, he realized that the house from his dreams was an identical match to this home before him.

               Mr. Johannsen carried his two boxes and Menander carried his suitcase to follow them up the stairs into his large and comfortable bedroom with its own private bathroom.

               “You can place your suitcase on the bed, Menander,” Mrs. Johannsen said. “After lunch, you and I can unpack and help you get settled.” She took him by the hand and the three of them walked down the stairs into the kitchen for a robust and warm lunch.

               “Thank you so much for choosing me,” Menander said. “I have been dreaming of having my own family for several years now. Please forgive me if I don’t get everything right. It will take me some time to adjust and learn what a family feels like.”

               “Don’t concern yourself with that, young man,” Mr. Johannsen said. “We understand that this will be a time of learning and transition for you. We will work through this together. Both you and I and Mrs. Johannsen all have a great deal to learn. I know this will be a good time for all of us.”

               “Oh, my goodness, this food is so good,” he said. “The food at the orphanage is usually lukewarm and very plain. I know I will be saying thank you many, many times as I learn to be part of the family.”

               “We are very happy that you are here with us,” Mrs. Johannsen said. “Let’s finish our lunch and then you and I can unpack your things, help you get settled and see if there is anything you need to feel at home. We can always go shopping any time there is a need.”

               The meal was complete, Menander and Mrs. Johannsen ascended the stairs, unpacked his things and embraced in a warm, mother son type of hug. “I think we should go shopping to buy you some new clothes,” she said. “This will be so much fun. I am so excited to take on this responsibility as your mother and help you feel comfortable. Let’s go talk to Mr. Johannsen and make a trip to a few stores.”

Choosing Life

 

            Little Sarah stood at the edge of the playground watching the other children interact and wishing that she had someone to care for her, to provide for her, and to love her like these other children who had two parents. Fighting back the tears that seemed to always overtake her when she watched the other children, she dropped into a sitting position on one of the logs that surrounded the play area.

               The laughter, the joy, and the delight she could see in the faces of the other children made her wonder what a life like theirs would be like to experience. She watched as the children departed one at a time with their parents until she sat alone in the dark playground, wishing for someone to love and to love her back. The darkness eventually grew so deep that she wandered off toward the inner city to find the alley in which she and her mother lived.

               Crawling under a pile of cardboard boxes, she ached with hunger and loneliness, wondering exactly where her mother was but at the same time, knowing that she was with a stranger who paid money for her attention. She could hear the shuffling of feet not too far from her obscure location, fearful to look out and see who or what was approaching.

               “If I look out and they see me,” she thought, “they’ll most likely hurt me like they hurt Mommy.” Sarah remained motionless, kept her breathing shallow, and waited until there was only silence. The warm of the next morning began to creep upon her and she carefully peeked out from beneath the cardboard to see her mother’s legs sticking out from beneath another pile of cardboard.

               “Oh good, there’s Mommy,” she thought. “I should go wake her and see if we can buy some food.” Carefully scanning around the alley, she saw no one else, no activity, and continued to ache from hunger, until she found the bravery to leave her protected space to approach her mother.

               She rose to her feet, stretched, and relished the gentle touch of the morning sun. “Oh, that is so much better,” she thought. “I’ve been so cold for so long, I hope Mommy is awake and won’t be angry with me for bothering her.” She carefully slid the cardboard from where she believed her mother’s face would be. As her face was exposed, her eyes were wide and her mouth was smiling.

               “Oh, thank goodness, there you are Sarah,” she said. “Come, let’s go to the grocery store and buy some breakfast. I’m sure you are as hungry or even hungrier than I am.” Pulling herself to her feet, she took Sarah by the hand and Mother and daughter left the alley to walk several blocks and enter the grocery store. “How does pastry sound for breakfast along with some juice and some fruit?” she asked.

               “That would be very good, Mommy,” Sarah answered. The desired items were obtained and then paid for at the checkout. Sarah could feel herself trembling inside at the delight of eating fresh, healthy food, and overjoyed to know that her mother was not angry with her and safe after whatever she had done that night before. Sarah took her mother by the hand; they walked two blocks to a nearby park and sat at the bench beneath a large maple tree.

               The two ate in silence and Sarah remembered her thoughts and fears from the day before as she watched the other children play in the park. “Why don’t I have any friends, Mommy?” she asked. “I see other children playing in the park and they have many other children to play with and be with. I feel like I hardly ever see you. Thank you for buying me breakfast. I’ve been very hungry for a long time.”

               “Yes, of course, my dear,” she answered. “When we have finished our breakfast, we should walk to the nearest public restroom and clean up. Maybe after that we can go to the waterfront and watch the boats and the birds. It is important to look at beautiful things whenever we have the chance.”

               “That sounds wonderful, Mommy,” she said. “Can we spend the rest of the day together? Will you be gone all night again or can we be together this evening?”

               “Yes, we can spend the day together,” she said. “I’m sorry, I will be busy tonight. I need to work so that we have money to buy food. I’m sorry that we don’t have a home to live in or a safe place to live. If I continue working as much as I can, maybe one day we will have our own home.”

               Her mother adjusted her backpack, took Sarah by the hand, and the two of them left the park on a short journey to the public restroom. “Here, honey,” she said. “We both need to wash our hair, wash our faces and our hands. I bought some wipes that will help us look presentable and blend into society like everyone else.”

               After cleaning themselves up, they walked to the waterfront and, as her Mommy had suggested, they watched the boats and the birds. “Okay, honey, we should go buy another meal because I need to go back to work in a few hours. After we eat, I will bring you back to your place in the alley and make sure that you’re safe.”

               They entered the alley, avoiding any interaction with the few people that were already there. “Stay hidden beneath the cardboard until I come back later,” she said. “Don’t let anyone see you, or someone may hurt you or take you away. That would be terrible.” Sarah slid under her pile of cardboard but first hugged her Mommy before she fell asleep.

               The next seven years became a blur in Sarah’s mind as she watched her mother continue to grow old and feeble. “I’m getting old, Sarah,” her mother said. “You have grown up to be a lovely young lady. I hate to say this but you will need to start working like I’ve been working. You should have no trouble earning plenty of money to help support us.”

               At seventeen years old, Sarah traveled with her mother to a street corner that was filled with many other young women, all working the same trade as her mother. She cringed at the idea of being with complete strangers and allowing them to use her simply to earn money. The evening began to grow dark and Sarah watched her mother climb into the car of a middle-aged man. “Oh, this is so bad,” she thought. “I really don’t want to be doing this. Do I have any other choice?”

               She wandered around the street corner, interacted with the other girls, made friendly conversation and watched as one girl after another disappeared into the cars of middle-aged men. Still feeling sick and objectified, she slid into the shadows of a nearby alley until a police car arrived. “Oh, perfect,” she thought. “I know they can help me.”

               She hurried from the alley, waved at the police car and begged the officers to rescue her from her horrible plight. “Officers, please help me,” she said. “I’m only seventeen years old and my mother is forcing me to do this work. Can you take me somewhere safe?”

               “Yes, of course,” one of them said. “Here, I’ll open the back door and we’ll take you somewhere safe. Technically, you are a child and should not be out here doing this.” A wave of relief passed through Sarah’s trembling body as she slid into the back seat of the police car.

               “Thank you so much,” she said. “This just feels so wrong. I hate the idea of giving myself to strange, middle-aged men who only care about themselves.” The car slowly pulled away and after parking, Sarah walked with the two police officers into the nearest police station, where she sat in a small room with a female police officer to tell the story of her life, while she took notes.

               “You don’t need to worry any longer, young lady,” she said. “When we are done talking here, CPS will send someone over to help you find somewhere safe and clean to live. Everything is going to be alright. There are many good, kind people who take care of those who are in need. You’ll be staying with one of these families. We’ll stay in touch as we finish your paperwork.”

               “Oh, good, thank you so much,” Sarah said. “I have never slept in an actual bed before or taken a shower in a regular home bathroom. I have always dreamed about being with kind and good people. My mother means well but this is all she knows.”

               “Here, come with me,” the female officer said. “You can wait in a different room until CPS arrives and they will take you to your new home. It should be less than an hour. I am so glad that you approached the two police officers and asked for help. Your life will be so much better and safe now.”

               Sarah sat and waited for less than an hour until she was introduced to the CPS worker, who drove her across town to a beautiful home with a middle-aged couple who warmly welcomed her into their home.

               “Come with me, Sarah,” the woman said. “I’ll show you your room and your bathroom. We will be having dinner in about thirty minutes. That should give you enough time to shower and change into comfortable clothes. Come downstairs when you are finished. We are so happy that you are here.”

Unfaithful

 

            Vanessa stood at the edge of the overpass, watching the unending line of traffic flow beneath her as the final hours of heavy traffic for the day reached its peak flow. She knew that her wait time would be several hours before she had the opportunity for truck and trailer to pass beneath her at an accelerated speed. Repeatedly checking her watch, she began to feel frustrated and began to pace, wondering about the point of it all, and if there was any purpose to continuing her insipid existence.

               Like a cyclone, her mind transitioned from one thought to the next to the next and ended up dwelling upon those she knew, former friends, co-workers, and those whom she said she loved and who thought they were loved by her. After pacing for at least an hour, she noticed that the flow of traffic had begun to thin out, allowing for faster travel time.

               “Okay, now is the time,” she said to herself. Stopping in her tracks, she bent at the waist, rested her hands above her knees, took several deep breaths and began to wonder how she got to this place with this mindset. The sun had slowly crept below the distant mountains and no longer gave good visibility for her as she stood on the overpass.

               “Darkness, this is a good thing,” she muttered. “I wish there was a better way to handle this rather than involving the driver of whatever vehicle happens to be passing by.” Standing back up to full height, she slowly approached the center of the overpass, leaned over the handrail and as if time decided to shift into slow motion, she watched the dark sky overhead with its few stars and a sliver of moon.

               Immediately regretting her decision to take the leap, she knew that there was no turning back at this point. The violent connection of her back and the blacktop below carried a horrific crunching sound to her ears, followed by the sound of an approaching truck and trailer. Though she could see nothing but dark sky overhead, she felt a wave of remorse cross over her as a series of tires destroyed her now broken body.

               She experienced only two sources of sensory input. The sound of her body breaking and the sight of the dark sky overhead, immediately followed by the red glow of tail lights as everything then faded to black. Though she lacked all other sensory input, her memories continued, thoughts of good and happy times passed through her mind until everything was gone.

               She thought she could feel anger, frustration, and disappointment fill every corner of her being to then rise above the tragic traffic scene, vaguely lit by tail lights and a sliver of moon. All movement stopped, all sound ceased to exist, and she was immediately joined by two very handsome young men who helped her rise to her feet, ascend into the sky, and look down upon her broken body on the blacktop.

               “Oh wow,” she thought. “I now realize that I have done a very bad thing. There is no going back and I have no idea what to expect from these two beautiful young men. I wonder where I’m going now.” As she and they continued their path upward, she could feel and see a beautiful white light embrace her, giving a feeling of peace, love, and joy but at the same time a feeling of disappointment.

               When they finally stopped moving, she noticed that there were hundreds of others, just like her approaching in the same way, and embraced by the same beautiful light. She and her two guides watched and waited for what seemed an undefinable long time. As they waited, she watched the others who had arrived either continue their ascent or begin a descent.

               “From everything I’ve been taught, I know what is happening here,” she thought. “Honestly, I really don’t know what direction I’ll be traveling or for how long I’ll be floating here.” As she waited, one of her guides slipped a mask over her face and she could feel her two guides take her by her hands and lead her somewhere.

               The three of them settled onto what felt like soft earth, or possibly sand. In an instant, the mask was removed from her face to reveal the face of a middle-aged man looking very sad. “Hello Vanessa,” he said. “You should not be here now. There was still so much for you to do. You abandoned your post, your responsibilities, and those who loved you. You gave up, you gave into your passions, and chose the easy path, which will not end well for you.”

               The sound of his words rang in her ears and at the same time she could feel what should have been her heart becoming tight and dry and disappointed in her failure to do the very best she could and her missed opportunities. She received a warm hug from her new visitor and from her two guides, to then realize that she stood alone, feeling sad and empty. She noticed many others a good distance away from her, moving toward a small hill glowing with light and she began to put in effort to join them in their movement.

               She began counting with each step she took to suddenly stop as if she ran into an invisible wall that prevented any further movement. The many others around her continued moving and she realized that there were others behind her that stopped moving before she stopped. “Ugh, now what,” she thought. Dropping to her knees, she continued to look upon the glowing hill and the inviting feeling of love it emanated. “I guess that’s it,” she thought. “I really want to continue moving up but now I’m stuck. What am I supposed to do? I guess I have my memories, both good and bad. I should spend some time thinking about what things I didn’t finish, people I didn’t reconcile with, and goals I never reached.”

               Rolling her head, stretching her arms, stretching her legs, she stood up and felt like she had a tiny opportunity take a few more steps forward. Before she could move any further, two large powerful arms embraced her from behind, followed by a warm and friendly growl. She turned to face the massive form and friendly face of a friend she had lost so many years before, overjoyed at the prospect of having someone she formerly loved now with her.

               The two of them sat on the lush grass, and began reminiscing about the fun they had together so many years before. As they spoke, they watched hundreds and thousands of others ascend from below as she had so many hours before. Many of them continued forward to ascend the glowing hill and many others froze in place, while others reached the land and were suddenly thrust back from whence they had come.

               Vanessa flopped back onto the grass, disappointed in herself, frustrated that she had taken the easy path instead of struggling to do the best with what she had. “I was unfaithful,” she grumbled to herself. “I guess that is they way things go sometimes. Decisions are made and there is no going back. Now I’m here and there is no way to undo what I’ve done.”

               Images of a star filled sky, of glowing red tail lights, and memories of the sound of her body being destroyed returned to her mind.

               “Let it go, Vanessa,” her friend said. “You cannot go back but at least we’re together now with good memories, good thoughts, and disappointment at what we didn’t do in the past. We need to watch for others that we’ve known from before and see what there is for us to do now.”

               “I really hope we’re not stuck in this empty place,” Vanessa said. “I hate the idea of having nothing to do. There must be something productive we can do to spend our time and be of value to ourselves to one another or to others.”

               The words barely left her mouth when they noticed that others like them rise to their feet and begin moving to one side of the grassy field. “Hey, look at that,” she said. “Let’s follow them and maybe we’ll find something good to do.” Grabbing her friend by the hand, they moved sideways to follow the crowd, eventually seeing others from their former life, to hug, to smile, to talk, and to reconnect.

               As they lingered about, they were approached by several other handsome young men, who looked a great deal like her former guides.

               “We are so glad that you two found one another,” one of them said. “We have a responsibility for you to take while you are here and as others arrive. When new visitors arrive, we need you to approach them, welcome them, encourage them, and urge them to move toward the glowing hill as far as possible. That is the ultimate goal for everyone. The closer you and they can approach the glowing hill, the greater love you will experience, and the greater joy you will find. It is your job to communicate hope and love.”